My blog is about style choices, trends, observations, tips, as well as general fashion and beauty talk. I decided to expand the blog to cover men’s styles as well. Alexis of www.lexlovescouture.com recently wrote a post about how easy men have it when it comes to putting together an outfit. I agree with her but I would still like to cover styling for men.
It’s funny, of course when I started this blog I wanted to talk about street fashion and all fun things like that. Well, it’s really hard to have a street fashion blog when you work a bajillion hours a week.I decided that I would gear focus on just things that I truly know about and stay true to my personality. Fashion is one of them, music is another and life is another. There’s a point to this…..just trust me.
One of the hardest things that I think people in life go through is taking criticism. Whether it be from friends, family or a boss, it’s always hard to take what someone thinks about the best foot that we put out there and learn from that. I’m the first to admit, while I appreciate a bit of constructive criticism, depending on the delivery, I become a baby. I act like a 2-year-old child and IMPLODE! I always take it 10x worst then I should and assume that I’ve messed up in the worst way possible. “I can’t redeem myself!” “What have I done?!” “Did I make you mad?” “Do you hate me?!” It’s really only natural and everybody has dealt with this at some stage in their life. You can lie all you want and say it’s not true but trust me it is. I’m getting to the point…..just trust me.
I have a lot of growing up to do in certain aspects(Oh Em Gee, I may look like I’m totally together but I sneeze and burp too!)
Last week, I learned a lesson in humbling myself. Looking back at the experience, I feel good about it. I wish it had happened in other ways then this way but shit happens.
I am always willing to take on a task. A lot of the time, I succeed and do something good. I just go for it. I get gung-ho and just try my hardest. I try not to ask because even though it’s not a sign of weakness, I don’t want to be viewed as not knowing something when I should.
My thought process was in the right frame of mind. I was going about it the right way but I messed up. However I didn’t find this out til later which made the hurt sting 4x worse than it should have. I was given the situation in the opposite way which didn’t help
The situation was given to me as if I was the most untalented person on the face of the earth and should get banished to the barren desert of Australia to live with the dingoes and aborigines(I said I have a lot of growing up to do)however, I just sulked.
Going home, throwing myself on the bed and falling asleep in the most dramatic fashion cause that’s what I do. Woke up the next day and was still dramatic. Went and got myself a 5 scoop sundae with extra peanut butter and extra hot fudge. I asked for an extra peanut butter cup but clearly she didn’t hear me. I think I was dramatic some more and then the next day was out of my stupor of dramatics.
Somehow, I brought the subject up and got a conversation starting with my peers that were knowledgeable on the subject. It got a conversation started and I realized that it’s ok to ask sometimes. It’s ok to not know the answers. I’m in a stage in life where I’m not going to know the answers, I’ll never know the answers to everything. I learn and grow but I have to be receptive to that. When you are receptive to what those around you say, you put your best self out there.
Remember the show that Sean “Puff Daddy aka P.Diddy” Combs had called Making the Band? Remember the season where he called out the potentials on having too much “B*tchassness“?
Well, I never watched the show or saw this episode but I remember loving the word. Somebody’s doing something to piss you off “Stop the b*tchassness” or they do something in a backstabbing way “Why did you do that? That’s a whole a lot of b*tchassness right there!”. The word should be developed into a GIF emoticon, where the icon is looking at you cross for just a minute and then backhand slaps you twice. There is a point to this story but I’m setting the emotion for you.
Everyone has an ego. That’s just a known fact in life. When the ego is hurt that person is hurt. I walk around with an extremely big ego but it’s always in good fun. I don’t try to intentionally hurt other people’s feelings or do something backhanded by behind their back. That’s a slap in the face! Don’t you think? I mean we’ve all been there and I’ve done it and I’m sure you have and so as Suzy Q.
I don’t think I necessarily care anymore exactly now that I’ve had time to think about it a little more. Ever look at someone and realize they are “Fake as f*cking April’s Fools Day” and then everything that they have done and will continue to do makes a lot of sense actually.
I despise fake people and I think the older I get it seems as though they keep following me and surrounding themselves around me. I don’t project myself as a fake person at all. I have no problem admitting my faults. They are not the best traits but at least I can’t admit them. That’s not fake. I guess however in life, I probably should learn to act like a backstabbing brown-nosing person and then I won’t even have to be bothered. I should do all the things that I don’t believe to get the perks. The key to life and happiness finally makes sense. So glad I realized this now at 27.
So how do you deal with “BitchAssNess” in your life? What is your definition of the word?
“You will not believe what Sandy Cohen said to me. He basically called me white trash. He said I was from Riverside!”— Julie Cohen (Season 1 of The O.C.)
When I was younger I saw Lawn Dogs with Christopher MacDonald, Kathleen Quinlan and Sam Rockwell. The main star of the movie was an unknown child actress Mischa Barton played the role of Devon. I became obsessed and followed every role that she had taken since. She starred alongside Burt Reynolds and Cameron Van Hoy in the movie Pups. Where she played a modern-day Bonnie & Cylde but they both soon realize that they are not well equipped for this job. Full throttle speed ahead, this young actress was well on her way with roles in Tart, Lost & Delirious, Octane and many more. Very bright and talented I believed in her and the direction in which her career was going.
This show is nothing like 90210, you remember the show from the 90′s with Shannon Doherty, Tori Spelling and Jennie Garth? The OC set in Newport Beach, a California beach resort town. The first season focused on how they would deal with an outsider coming into their protected enclave and the shift in change that it would bring to everyone’s lives. Mischa Barton would be playing Marissa Cooper, the popular, rich, promising relationship with the Captain of the Water Polo team and all around good girl. However in the first episode, it’s clear that not all is how it seems in this town.
The show was an instant success. I couldn’t stop my chatter about the show. I became obsessed with The Cooler Kids song “All Around The World(Punk Debutante)”, I watched it every week and even VHS’d it for my friend who wanted to see it.I never saw that VHS again! Every week was better than the one before. The drama that unfolded so quickly was unreal….
The show focused on Ryan Atwood, delinquent kid with a rough background from Chino, California. He’s adopted into the Newport Beach home of his attorney Sandy Cohen and his wife Kirsten. Marissa is the next door neighbor and they soon begin a on and off again romance throughout the series until she becomes a lesbihonest so I hear. Marissa’s father Jimmy is trying to “Keep Up With The Joneses” and is on the verge of being found out. He’s taken money from his client accounts and is soon under investigation from the SEC Fraud Commissions…..UH OH! I smell trouble! It all unfolds at the Debutante Cotillion when a client asked for $250k of his own money and he was told that it wasn’t there. He did the math and came out with the correct answer.
Also, we’re introduced to a character named Anna from Pittsburgh. Note: I haven’t been too many Debutante Balls but I’m pretty positive that you can’t move to a town as a new student and then debut into that society. How awkward must that have been? She moved here in the summer and debuts with people she doesn’t know? Think About It!!! Their relationship only lasted half a season because the producers decided enough with that. *Chuckles* No, Anna moved back home to Pittsburgh….Buh bye Samaire Armstrong’s career.
So a lot of other stuff happens through out the first 7 episodes of the season. Luke(Marissa’s Hot Boyfriend) and Ryan are constantly fighting but coming together at some eye level type of an agreement. Luke is shot by some other punk kid but that kid is from Corona. Ryan saves him. Luke saves Ryan when they burn down one of Kirsten’s developments. Julie tells Jimmy she wants a divorce because she wants to look like the hero. We meet Kirstin’s father, Cal who owns the Newport Group which is a development company in the real estate market. My Gosh!!…..Can you keep up?…….I COULD…….
Get ready for the break in the season. You know how sometimes the show premiers in the summer, so they do a few episodes to test the market and see how it works out? Well, that’s what FOX did and they left us with quite the cliffhanger for the season. What happens in Tijuana stays in Tijuana until you go looking for your Captain of the WaterPolo team boyfriend only to discover him dancing in a skanky nightclub with the girl’s whose father punched your father at your Debutante Ball because he realized that your father stole money from him? Payback is a BITCH! Is it ok for what has happened in Tijuana to stay in Tijuana when it requires you being emergency lifted out of Mexico back to Newport Beach because you require urgent care? Oh, Marissa Cooper!
I mean the first 7 episodes of this show really went there. Looking back at it, the themes were definitely too mature but I guess if you went to a high school where kids acted this sexually aware, then this might have been normal. The season progressed and we saw stronger character development. Ryan and Marissa started dating. Seth had a torn love/hate relationship with Summer(Rachel Bilson) and we are even introduced to the character Oliver who threatens to kill Ryan and Marissa(I haven’t rewatched that episode yet). The best part of the season was when Luke walked in on his father……………….and that was when we were introduced to Luke’s Gay Father!!
That was when we saw the last of Luke. His parent’s got divorced and his father moved to Seattle. Luke decided that it would probably be best for him to move with his father. I actually haven’t made it to the episode again yet, I just watched the episode where Marissa tried to escape from the hospital and Ryan almost didn’t get accepted into the Newport Harbor School because of it. After the first 19 episodes, I lost interest and never really watched it again after episode 27. I saw the episode where Ryan saved Marissa’s life yet again because she was in a car accident. Sometimes I wish I did keep up with the show but it’s funnier watching it now and looking back at all the things I remember or didn’t notice the first time around. However, I bet nobody remembers that Holly was a contestant on American Idol back in the day? or that Luke was in episode of Strangers with Candy as one of Jerri Blank’s love interest? Do you remember that Mischa Barton was in a play on Broadway called Slavs which was really good.
Unfortunately the show didn’t last very long. Only about 4 seasons,why I’m not entirely sure. Pushing the envelope too son on certain subject matters perhaps. Giving a false perception of Southern California….oh wait…..I remember because everyone became obsessed with Laguna Beach:The Real Orange County which spawned 3 seasons in Laguna Beach and one in Newport Beach, a spin-off called the Hills in which we see the main star develop her career and her womanhood, as well introducing us to the fabulous Heidi Montag. I love Heidi.
It even spun off a series on BET called Baldwin Hills which was basically like watching a ghetto version of the Cosby Show on BET. However, I was glued to my BET the first two seasons…… In closing, I really loved this show. I wished that Mischa Barton had a better career because she showed so much promise from the very first time I saw her. Unfortunately for her Rachel Bilson became the sensational star and for what….Nobody really acted again from that show or so I’ve seen. Chris Carmack did a few LifeTime movies, Kelly Rowan went back to her LifeTime movie roots, Tate Donovan went back to being upset that his only claim to fame will be Potion No.9 with Sandra Bullock, Hercules and a failed relationship with Jennifer Aniston(because everyone has a successful relationship with her), Benjamin McKenzie found success on TNT with Southland.
Just A Note:I had a friend from Corona and I knew someone from Chino and I’m sure it wasn’t as bad as they tried to portray it on television……
“You can’t just tell someone they have a Boston accent. That’s the rules of feminism!”-Gretchen Weiners
So I’m sitting at Club Cafe hosting a pity party for myself and the conversation at the other end of the bar isn’t all that intriguing right away. However, someone needed directions and the directions they were all wrong so I decided to chime in. Chime in, was probably the wrong to do. He asked me where to go “I said 9 Newbury St”….to which he plugged into his GPS on his phone. I looked at him and said that he was spelling it wrong. I said “Not Berry, Bury.” He looked at me puzzled and confused. That’s when another person at the bar chimed in and said “Welcome To Boston!”…..THE SHOCK THAT CAME OVER MY FACE! I looked at the boy who was from Savannah, GA and asked him “Do I talk like a Bostonian?”…..not answering right away he looked at me and then said with a nice smile “Yes you do sweetie. It’s ok. Your hair is fierce though!”
All my life I’ve tried not to talk like a Bostonian but what ended up happening…Anyways….the point of this blog was something else but I had to share this since it was freshly happening as I was writing the main focal point.
I like to think of myself as a Chameleon in some ways. I like to change it up & shake it up. Spice is the variety of life and keeps us interesting characters. So I always tell myself I’m going to reinvent myself into something fabulous. I used to have a daring edge and have a bit more of an edge when I was younger. So I thought.
I know it’s normal to feel in a style rut sometimes. It’s normal and happens to everyone. This is my inspiration for the fall though. I think that incorporating some of these themes and elements into my Style Renovation for the fall will give me an edge. The edge that I miss about myself. The edgiest I get now is blonde hair and my new-found love for black eyebrows. That’s rather disappointing and boring.
I’d like to know what you do when you get into a fashion rut? How do you pull yourself out? Do you go through your closet and reinvent yourself that way? Feel free to share your thoughts. I will respond to everyone that leaves a comment.
Where To Find Items:
“Sometimes it’s not bad to be selfish. Because there are somethings in life that are not meant to be shared”
Once upon a time there was a boy named Andrae and he was a very nice, well put together boy. Some might even say a Trophy, but there was one flaw. This boy Andrae hated the idea of sharing things. Sharing was not caring to Andrae. Whenever Andrae was forced to share, his heart turned into a million pieces of dog crap. He wouldn’t even share with his own mother if she asked him.
Andrae used to think that sharing was one of the worst things in life a person could do. There was no real value from it. The expectation that he was suppose to share was unsettling.
Then one day out of nowhere, Andrae shared. He shared everything. He shared much until it hurt. People around him gave him praises and thought it was the kindest thing. They weren’t sure how to react to this new movement. They antagonized him and in hopes that he wouldn’t share. Whenever he shared, he got a gold star. He even shared his favorite candies and cookies. HE EVEN SHARED PAD THAI(no fish sauce). I mean it doesn’t get any realer than that.
Sharing is something that I never thought I’d have to do in life. I mean I’ve never had to share, ever. My mother always made sure I didn’t have to share anything with my brother cause I would always throw a tantrum. Now I share. It’s amazing. I’ve grown up into a such a young man at 27, I share. I think I’ve even shared bubblegum with a child once. Yeah…..I know. I love sharing. The joy it brings to other peoples lives. My presence is sharing enough and you are all so lucky to have it in your lives……….
Just kidding….well, kind of…..I share this in hopes that you enjoy your weekend….
Music is such a beautiful form of expressing oneself. Whether you appreciate it by listening to it or your able to create the sound of music. There’s something amazing about the art of it. I have such a deep appreciation for music. I can’t get enough of it. No matter how much I try. If I could listen to music 24/7, 365 days of the year for the rest of my life I would. Sorry, I would. I love what each person in the world has to say but imagine if we listened to our own soundtracks through our daily lives how peaceful it would be. Again, I think that everyone should have a collection of music that runs the gamut.
There’s no need to limit what your listen to because it doesn’t fit into the genre you like the most. I listen to almost everything except for Bluegrass. Not my thing, I’ve tried but something about it reminds me of Madisonville, Texas or West Virginia. Not knocking cause I got some roots in Madisonville but if I don’t have to listen to sounds from that area I’m good. I want something that is representative of my personality too. Fun, dramatic, humour, and to show of my sensual side….ya know?!
I truly would like to know what some of your favorite songs are at the moment. I am always mentally updating my favorite songs and compiling a list of what I think I should be listening to based on the season and my mood. Thank God for Spotify, Last.fm, Pandora and Songza. NOTE:When I say Pandora I mean when Pandora originally started and it was truly innovative. Now they just play the songs and that’s annoying.
Before I go and tell you what is making me happy. I want to state that Tyga‘s Hotel California and Kendrick Lamar‘s album are amazing. Both are talented and I truly love their albums. I never like the full album from an artist and they come close. Ready.Set. Go.
Currently Listening To(Artist & Song):
Duke Dumont feat A.M.E.—- Need U 100%
Arto Lindsay—Kamo(Dark Stripe)
Iggy Azaela—-My World
Kelly Rowland—Kisses Down Low
GTA—-Booty Bounce(Original Mix)
Tyga—–It Neva Rains In Southern California
Bassnectar feat Angel Haze—-Freestyle
Lunice—-And She Said(a really nice rendition of DeBarge‘s “Love Me In a Special Way”)
Hudson Mohawke—–All Your Love
Reginia Belle——Baby Come To Me
Stevie Wonder—-Golden Lady
Mark Ronson and the Business feat Pharell, Wiley & Simon LeBon—–Record Collection(Perseus Remix) this is the greatest summer song.
So I might as well just throw it in the back and become a spinster! You know in gay years I might as well be 45. What’s the correct terminology for an old man who is a Cat Lady? When I was younger I thought it would be cool to have been married 7 times. I would have given Liz Taylor a run for her money!!
Gay men really are hard to gauge when it comes to dating. Whoever tells you otherwise is a goddamn liar and you should run far away from them. Dating is hard enough for anybody but throw in the same sex…10x worse. I guarantee!!!!
Dating should not be so hard. It really is something that is fun and that you enjoy doing when you’re in that getting to know some phase, right? We all play games so to sit here and say that I don’t I’d be like. However, I don’t sit there and play the “Oh, I like you today but will ignore you for 3 weeks at a time and call upon you when I’m bored and ready game!” Been there.Done that.Over it!
So I’ve compiled a few bullet points of what could be the reason why someone could think I’m not the easiest person to date.Disclaimer:Everyone is entitled to their opinions.I’M SUPER EASY TO DATE.I’M NOT A FATAL ATTRACTION LIKE GLENN CLOSE! I think everyone should try it at some point and come up with “faults” as to why you are not dating.It’s a lot of fun and you learn a lot about
yourself other people. Let’s face it there’s nothing wrong with any of us is there?
DATING JUST ISN’T FOR ME:
- Am I a bitch? Could people perceive my dry, sarcastic, witty, but very monotone voice as being the bitchy queen that they do not want to get involved with?Note: Quoting Tyra Sánchez “…but I’m not a bitch.I’m America’s sweetheart!” and I could be yours too.
- Maybe I’m playing the games that I think I’m not playing and by doing that I’m playing a game and making self seem not available or interested.We’ll I’ve gone past go several times now it’s time to pay up!
- Maybe I’m not as cute as I think I am. Maybe the idea in my head and that I see through my eyes isn’t what other people see, which would make me repulsive. Maybe I look like an ogre or some hideous swamp monster who smells like vile nasty swamp water!!! Note:I piss rainbows, shit 24 carat gold glitter while farting Chanel No.5
- Maybe guys don’t want a guy that has a big booty. Maybe it implies that I’m some kind of big booty heaux. I can understand.Note: I will quote the famous Rihanna for this “and it’s not even my birthday…I GOT THAT CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE CAKE”
- The only factor that I would say would the be only reason ever not to date me if I weren’t going to date me would be the fact that I don’t drive. There’s nothing wrong with that, my choice and your choice.Note:That’s a valid reason.
- I guess I could be expensive to keep happy. I don’t mind sitting at home but because we want to not because we have to.Note:”Me and broke n*ggas we don’t get along”
Guess my point is, I’m kind of bummed out about this guy. Like make some time to see me or at least tell me that you don’t want to keep on hanging. I’m cool with that. I think it’s a waste of time to keep someone strung along.At the end of the day, it don’t matter because I am doing good………
Cleaning out my closet and looking through my stuff to get ready to give to donation centers.I actually never give clothes away,I just throw them away.I thought this time, I’m going to donate clothes. Which is a great idea and theory but it never ends up happening to plan because as soon I put something in a bag, I take it out and think, well I want this. I realize how many pairs of shoes or how much I need to go shopping(at least in my head that’s what I think)
So looking through my shoes, I realized that I will forever and always own just way too many shoes. However, in my closet I still don’t have those Cinzia Araia Rabbit sneakers that I desperately wanted.All that was in my closet that was a reminder of what could have been the most beautiful shoe union between a man and shoes was Jeffrey Campbell wedge sneakers that have spikes…and I got my mom a matching pair.
Although, I did notice while looking online to see if I could find a men’s version of Cinzia Araia’s, that the new wedge sneaker game for the fall 2013 season is beyond SICK! I mean from Jeffrey Campbell, Ruthie Davis, Marc Jacobs and Giuseppe Zanotti,the game this season is slaaaaaaying.
Hmm? What should I invest in next. Take a look and let me know what you think?
I will always love you Cinzia Araia……it just was not to meant to be